16 Things I Wish I Knew Before My Boudoir Experience
We know that for so many Divas, as the date of your boudoir shoot approaches, you can feel half excited and half terrified. First things first, we want you to know that this is completely normal. Those nerves are not only expected, they’re a good sign. They show that you’re pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and doing something truly meaningful for you.
That said, we understand how helpful a little reassurance can be. So, we asked our wonderful community in the Divine Divas Girls Only Group what they wish they’d known before their boudoir sessions – from choosing outfits and managing nerves to what it’s really like to be in front of the camera. Here’s what they said.
I wish I knew….
“How lovely you all are – and totally non-judgemental!”
“How incredibly relaxed it would be.”
“That plain lingerie colours are best, black or red work beautifully. And definitely cut the labels off!”
“Not to be shy about any ideas you want to try – even topless! Your boudoir photographer is always happy to work with you.”
“That I didn’t need dozens of outfit changes! Two were more than enough.”
“Not to be scared. You’ll have a fantastic time and actually enjoy yourself.”
“To trust the make-up artist. She’s the expert and knows what looks amazing in boudoir photography, just go for it.”
“How empowering it would feel. I went back a second time just to see the difference confidence makes.”
“Not to overbuy clothes. I had great advice from the team, but didn’t listen, lesson learned!”
“How quickly you start to feel confident – and how brave and courageous you’ll realise you are.”
“Just how much bloody fun I’d have!”
“That corsets make it impossible to bend down! Shoe changes with my gorgeous boudoir photographer were hilarious.”
“That all I needed to do was take deep breaths, and I’d feel comfortable within seconds.”
“That my nerves disappeared the moment I walked through the door. I didn’t even need to spend loads on new items – I used what I already had.”
“How much I’d laugh. The team made the boudoir photoshoot so enjoyable, and the poses had me in stitches.”
“To smile, because even when you’re nervous, it doesn’t show.”
Every single one of these is so true. If you take one thing away from this, let it be this: don’t doubt yourself. You absolutely can push past the nerves and discover how empowering, freeing and joyful a boudoir shoot can be. It’s all about giving yourself permission to feel beautiful, celebrate your body, and capture that strength in stunning photos.
The hardest part is walking through the door, but once you do, the rest comes naturally. Take a few deep breaths, trust the process, and allow yourself to shine. Check out How My Boudoir Experience Changed My Life for love letters from our Divas about their sessions.
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