Rebuilding Confidence After Betrayal: Real Stories of Women Rising Again Through the Divas Experience
Being cheated on can be a devastating blow to our confidence. And for many Divas who come to us after betrayal, one thing they tell us is that it didn’t just hurt them, but destabilised their sense of worth, how they see themselves - and left them questioning whether they are, or were, ‘enough.’
But healing, not to sound too cheesy, is a journey; and for many women, the Divine Divas experience becomes that turning point.
Below, four incredible women share, in their own words, how stepping into the Divas studio helped them rebuild what betrayal tried to break.
Katie: Relearning Her Worth
For Katie, betrayal left deep wounds in her confidence - but her Divas experience became a catalyst for rebuilding.
“Doing the Divas experience made me realise that I am worth more than I realised. It’s allowed me to want more for myself, and that I deserve the world. Being cheated on destroys your self-worth and confidence. Divine Divas helps build you back up to the queen you are.”
Rhia: From Shattered Confidence to Reclaimed Power
Rhia’s story begins in a horrible place that far too many women recognise; a story of being emotionally chipped apart.
“There was a time in my life when my confidence felt completely shattered. After leaving a relationship filled with cheating, belittling, and gaslighting, I struggled to recognise myself - not just in the mirror, but in who I was as a woman. I felt small, unseen, and unsure of my own worth.”
Walking into her Divas shoot was terrifying, she didn’t feel confident, sexy, or even visible.
“Booking a boudoir photoshoot at Divas was something I did almost on instinct - a quiet promise to myself that I deserved to feel good again. But walking through those doors, I was terrified. I didn’t feel sexy. I didn’t feel cute. I wasn’t even sure I’d be able to relax enough for a single decent photo.”
But, then THIS happened…
“But within minutes of meeting the team, everything shifted.
The warmth, reassurance, and genuine belief in me from the Divas’ team slowly chipped away at the nerves. They made me feel safe. Seen. Celebrated… And before I knew it, I wasn’t posing - I was living. I felt playful, bold, soft, powerful… all at once. It was as if every click of the camera captured another piece of myself coming back.”
And then came the moment that anchored her healing:
“For the first time in years, I looked at photos of myself and didn’t pick them apart. Didn’t criticise. Didn’t hide. Instead, I stared in awe. I looked amazing. I looked sexy, gorgeous, radiant — not because of how my body looked, but because of how I looked reclaiming myself.”
Years later, this is how Rhia tells us she feels about her artwork:
“What still surprises me is how deeply those images have anchored me. Even now, years later - and even though I’m three stone lighter than I was back then - those photos remain some of my favourites. They remind me of exactly how strong I was at a time when I felt at my weakest. They remind me that beauty doesn’t come from perfection, it comes from presence, confidence, and courage.”
I see them every day on my wall, and every day they give me a little boost. A quiet “you’ve got this.” A reminder of the moment I started rebuilding.
Her confidence rebuilt, her sense of self restored… She’s now coming back again next year and says THIS to any Diva umming and ahhing about whether to go for it:
“It helped me stand a little taller, smile a little brighter, and trust myself a whole lot more.
If you’re thinking about doing a boudoir shoot but feel nervous, unsure, or “not enough”… trust me, I’ve been there. And I can honestly say: it was one of the most transformative things I’ve ever done.
I highly, wholeheartedly recommend it. You might walk in feeling uncertain - but you will walk out feeling empowered, beautiful, and more you than ever.”
Alice: Seeing That She Doesn’t Need to Compare Herself!
Infidelity leaves you comparing yourself to others - wondering what someone else had that you didn’t.
For Alice, the Divas experience got rid of that questioning!
“It made me realise that I am beautiful and the other women were no better than me. I’m not there yet but looking at my artwork reaffirms my worth when I’m feeling doubtful and low.”
Her artwork now serves as a quiet daily reminder: she is enough.
Lorna: Rebuilding After Years of Feeling Not Enough
Lorna has experienced betrayal more than once, and each time, it eroded a little more of her confidence and sense of worth.
Her first Divas shoot came at a pivotal moment:
“As I turned 40, I was single, and needed something to remind me who I was… I always felt I was never good enough, never skinny enough or pretty enough. But my time with The Divas showed me I was someone who had strength, power and beauty. It was one of the most enlightening experiences I’ve ever had!”
Her second session came years later, during one of the hardest chapters of her life:
“My second visit came at a time where I was probably doubting myself more than I have in a long time. Still single, feeling like I'd lost my purpose as my son had moved out, and I just felt lost. I was going through therapy, which had opened up my past for the first time in nearly 30 years, and I was starting to discover that what I had been ashamed of, embarrassed about, was completely not my fault. Boundaries were crossed, and this was the time that I was starting to finally learn that I have the power to set my own boundaries, I'm the boss, and the only person I need to be good enough for is myself. Every day I look at my Divas artwork when I get up, when I'm going to bed, when I'm getting ready for the day, at every opportunity really, and every time, I see a woman who is doing her OWN thing."
I still have a long way to go, but Divas has given me a good shove in the right direction. Each time I look at my pictures I think about how I felt on the day, excitedly nervous, but comfortable in my own skin and ready to really go for it! “
The experience empowered her so deeply that she finally got a tattoo she had waited years to be ready for:
“You have no power over me!”
A new tattoo to mark a line in the sand, and a new chapter.
Why the Divas Experience Helps Heal After Infidelity
Each woman’s story carries the same message:
They walked in feeling insecure, or “not enough.”
They walked out feeling better, and confident in who they are!
Boudoir isn’t about posing in lingerie.
It’s about seeing yourself through kinder, stronger, more loving eyes.
It’s about rewriting the narrative from:
“Why wasn’t I enough?”
to
“I am more than enough, and always have been.”
If you’re struggling after a relationship break-down, we’d love to help you. There will always be nerves, and doubts, but your Discovery Call’s and consultations (maybe even some self-belief challenges!) before you come in will help light that spark. You don’t need to feel like your most confident self, you just need to take a leap of faith.
If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to get in touch - just email jo@divinedivas.co.uk or Whatsapp 01225 483151!